I have recently been fired from work and I am really worried about money.
I am a 27 year old man and yet my only option now will be to borrow money from my mum, and I am dreading asking her.
I am so stressed and ashamed about having to do this. It feels horrible.
Obviously I am looking for work, but I don’t know how I am going to get through this financial stress.

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Three other lifeguards and i have to back board someone yesterday. We are all dealing with the stress and after shock from that.Myself and another lifeguard have not been able to sleep and have been very sick.We all have talked to our boss and tried not to think about it.What are some good ways to help with that just encase it happens again.Should we keep guarding or go home for the day?What could we do?

If it was a successful rescue, remind yourselves of this. You were there and you responded correctly. This was a very traumatic situation. It’s normal to feel the way you do. It’s probably not very likely this will happen again so soon. As time passes you will gradually be able to settle down. You are a special person looking out for the safety of others.

We’re doing a research on stress levels experienced by college students. Level of stress is our variable. So far, I haven’t found a consistent view on levels of stress yet. It seems like different researchers and authors have identified their own levels of stress for their respective population. Although there are established ways on measuring stress, there are a few resources on levels of stress. Can you identify some and cite your resources? Thanks!

The best answer I can give you is that the levels are unimportant because the closer the matter is to your heart the more it frazzles you. Take it from me, a 55 yr old woman, who worked in state tax collection for years (which carries a very high level of stress), Single mother with 3 grown sons with child custody problems ( very high level of stress), has alzheimer’s disease now (I guess I blew a gasket), seizures and esophageal erosion, and is now disabled. If i didn’t have interaction with other people I wouldn’t have any stress at all.
Stress as is depression, is brought about via outside influence for me. As a woman my family is the most important thing in my life. If I am being pushed to achieve a goal at work or to exceed an amount set my my employer, We had a certain goal amount to reach in collections. If you didn’t reach that goal your job was in jeopardy, so there was this constant push. Thus, a lot of stress to the point I would vomit then it went to vomiting blood, then finally esophageal erosion. This directly affected my being able to support my family. Doing a really good job was of the utmost importance. Therefore, I had to react to it as I would a matter of the heart. Anything that has repercussions that affect the heart will be like a blow to the stomach.
Stress level experienced by college students depends on their desire to succeed. There is always going to be the young immature students that are going to college because their parents want them to but, they really don’t know yet what they really want to do in life. Mom and dad are the ones that have always worried about that stuff. Then there is going to be the underachievers that have got to do better but, have some kind of mental block thus, they just can’t seem to get there. Then there are the ones who just seem top skate through effortlessly. You have to look at the circumstances behind the scene to really get the jest of the stress level. All you really need to do is to meditate and walk in their shoes. You will get the answer.

I have noticed increasingly lately that my concentration, memory, both short and long, ability to think and concentrate and functioning is notably impaired. I seem to be in one place but another in mind, never really with it and often finding myself not really listening to people even going into a trance and finding it hard to snap out of going into myself. I have been under a lot of mental stress lately, loss of someone close, generalised anxiety, became a new mum, moving house i could go on. Could this just be severe stress or could i be going mad?

Yes, absolutely severe stress can cause many issues. This certainly includes your mental functioning. Difficulty concentrating, lack of focus, grief issues ("lost someone close"), new mother, moving. Your stress is very high at present.
Also generalized anxiety can be a separate issue or it could be connected with the stress you are experiencing. I do hope that you will consult your Dr or other health care provider to discuss these issues in depth. If you do have depression it is very amenable to treatment with the caution that treatment is more helpful the earlier you take yourself to your Dr. (many of the symptoms you mention are indicative of a depressive disorder). I wish you Blessings of Health, Julian of N

I am worried about my health because of underneath work stress and family problems. Want to relax . Suggest me some tips.

Hi dear,

1.Sleep is the best answer and solution…
2.Talking about your problem with family members may help resolve it quickly.
3.There are some people in life who are overly sensitive and tend to take remarks that are made and turn them into a personal attack.
3.Eat three times a day, breakfast, lunch and dinner regularly. do not skip meals. then don’t eat too much, i mean keep your meals balanced.
4. Finally don’t worry about anything take things positive and don’t think too much and spoil ur health……… do ur best god will the take the rest of your life

Take it easy! There’s no point killing yourself over work etc. Get well!

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I kind of understand the concept but what is stress and how does sensory overload directly affect it.

Stress, as you’ve guessed, is a combination of mental and physical fatigue. I pastor a Church and deal with it personally and in counseling. I even wrote a short booklet on it. Your mind and body are connected. Worry, fear, anxiety, and such things add to the body’s stress as well. A body that is run down, exhausted, or sick can impact your mental state as well. Stress is unavoidable. It is part of life. We feel it any time there is pressure. Pressure to perform, pressure to be somewhere, pressure to do something, pressure to be something. All of this is stress.

Sensory overload, to culminate in stress, is usually something that is built up over time. For example: Listening to someone chewing loudly will grow more bothersome to some people over time. It focuses the mind on it so that they can’t tune it out. The intense focus on something like that leads to stress.

We live in a society where noise and images are the primary means of gaining attention. You drive down the street and see billboards and signs. You watch TV and have images flashing rapidly at you with the often overwhelming number of sounds and noises. Movies can be stressful for people. They give children nightmares, they can cause sleep deprivation. I go into people’s houses and notice that the TV is on and no one is watching. They don’t even realize that the images and noise is constantly on. You can say that their senses have been overwhelmed.

I’ve even found a correlation between children diagnosed with ADD and their environment at home. When the house is loud, noisy, and generally in a clamor, children can’t seem to absorb it well and often end up with attention spans much less than other children. It is a form of stress. I’ve observed teenagers that have to have music playing all the time, even when they go to sleep, tend to be more nervous and stressed than others.

And you can’t discount a person’s emotional state. The more raw our emotions, the more impact sensory input can affect it. A parent who had a bad day at work and comes home to loud and rambunctious children will quickly grow stressed with the noise and find himself or herself unable to deal with it properly. A wife having a bad marriage will find herself unable to deal with the pressures of her job, especially if she works in a loud environment.

There are many factors, but yes, stress and sensory overload are connected.

If you could ask Santa Claus for a method or a process or a way of handling the stress in your life, what would it do? What would it look like?
For example, meditation has helped me stay calm under stress - but the outer stress is still there.
Maybe learning to work better in teams, to get some stress off your shoulders - but then there’s the stress of working with other people!
I’d like to know what other people think.
Thank you.

Hello

That is a MASSIVE question, that Is difficult to answer all here.

The best way to release stress is to ‘Mind Dump.’

By this I mean take a piece of paper, or what ever you can get you hands on and wright everything down that is on your mind. I do mean EVERYTHING. It could be the clothes you need to get ready to get your kids to school in the morning, preparing the report that is due on your bosses desk at 9am or you need to pick up some dog food at the store, before Paddy starves!! This isn’t a 30 second job, take 5,10… an hour if you need to do this. I coached one person who had that much on his mind that this took a full morning. Once everything that is on your mind, is now not on your mind, close your eyes and take a big deep breath…. How do you feel?? (let me know I never get board of that part).

That isn’t it though. Everything you just wrote down now needs organizing into a system or your brain wont let go of it. Try putting these thoughts into some kind of diary, to-do order, or even better, a system to give them a slot in your life when you can deal with them one by one. DO NOT LET THEM CREEP BACK UP INTO YOUR HEAD!! Any new thoughts add them to your piece of paper. (If you would like further advice on this part let me know)

Your brain is an excellent gathering tool, but struggles to cope with more than seven tasks at a time, and as such can cause stress issues. Free it up to think and problem solve, don’t clutter it up with the 1000+ things that could be organized else where.

Einstein didn’t know his own telephone number, as he would not use his enormous brain to store information he could assess in other means!!

Its worth a thought.

If I could be of anymore assistance to anyone I would love to help.

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If no, then what does it depend on and is it the strength of the wire that depends on the cross-sectional area? This is a little confusing. Also, is tensile stress and ultimate tensile stress (breaking stress), the same thing?

Stress in a component is the applied force divided by its cross sectional area, so it doesn’t depend on the cross sectional area. However, the area will determine the force required to achieve that stress. A large cross section would require larger force than a small cross section for example, but the ratio would be the same, i.e we will end up with the same value for stress.
Tensile stress, or more correctly called the ultimate tensile strength, UTS, is the maximum stress a material can withstand before it starts to break. After this a tensile specimen would exhibit necking, a reduction in cross sectional area, that if it is a ductile material, then it would snap, or breaks when the remaining cross sectional area is not sufficient to withstand the applied force and this stress is called the breaking stress. A brittle material would not experience necking, or reduction in cross sectonal area it would snap, and usually the UTS equals the breaking stress in these materials.
Unlike UTS, the breaking stress has no meaning from mechanical design point view. UTS can be used to compare between different materials. However, in design the yield stress is used, which is the maximum stress the material can take before deformation becomes permanent, or plastic. Below the yeild stress, the material is siad to be in the elastic region, i.e any deformation is reversible, when force is lifted the compnent’s dimensions return back to original values. Furthermore when you design a component you take a safety factor, to make sure that it doesn’t fail, for example 75% of the yield stress.
In conclusion, the yield stress, UTS and breaking stress are material properties. Steel for example has higher UTS than Aluminium. Heat treatments and addition of alloying elements can increase these stresses.

I know excessive salt contributes to it, but I don’t really eat salty foods. For many years, I’ve been hearing that stress can also contribute to hypertension. I’ve been SUPER stressed out lately! Worried about a LOT. But my nurse practitioner said that stress has nothing to do with my pressure being high.

Your nurse practitioner is WRONG. When you are stressed, your sympathetic nervous system (aka fight or flight response) kicks in and releases epinephrine into your blood stream, increasing your blood pressure, heart rate, ect. You may have naturally underlying high blood pressure, but stress will increase it even further. Temporary stressors (like almost falling off a cliff) that raise your BP are not harmful, but a normal response. However, if you have chronic stress and high blood pressure, you need to have the high BP treated so your heart and blood vessels do not sustain damage and you also need to find some way of relieving stress that works for you. (exercise is best).

I stress about everything, and think about things too much, and i wanna know how i can jsut calm down and relaxx! I heard stress is a common cause of many illnesses, and I want to stopppppppp.

I agree with this point that "infiniti" has made- "
Also, prayer and/or meditation help. And any inspirational, daily, spiritual study helps". Gratitude is a very important thing in our life’s. Start from today thank God for everything in your life,even if you think that you haven’t got anything to be grateful for,but I can tell you,you’ve got to many thing to be grateful for,start from little things,and keep giving thanks every day every time when you see something good is happening in your life,and it doesn’t need for big things to happen,just little things,it could be anything-somebody gave you a good advise,or did something nice to you-basically anything.what i have learned through the years,that there is a great power in gratitude,when you are grateful for everything in your life,and do you know what,I’m more grateful when bad things is happening in my life,and I noticed also,that more I become grateful in bad times,more I become stronger mentally and feel better too. It’s everything down to thinking,change your focus about what you think,and everything around you will change for the better. Good Luck!